Since I last discussed the Provo house we have been on the worst roller coaster I can imagine. The buyers backed out completely (as I said before), and it should have ended there. Well, it didn't. They have been jerking us around for a week and a half now and I have. HAD. IT. I've been trying to describe the situation in words, and I just don't feel like I am able to properly convey the frustration and anxiety this has been. I know how lucky I am that this is my biggest problem/concern, but I am still really struggling with the situation. I feel like Eric and I have tried to do everything right, we worked so hard to keep that house in good shape, and to even improve it. I have been struggling to understand what we are supposed to be learning from all of this and last night it hit me, maybe this isn't a "trial," maybe this is a "blessing."
So, anyway, here's the story as best as I can put it into words:
First, there were three days of rumors that they weren't really backing out, but nothing written. Then they finally got us a list of written demands that was crazy. Pretty much they wanted the 1944 house they put an offer on to become a 2009 house all at our expense. These were not things that "had" to be done, they were things we lived with and that I am sure they would live with if they were the ones that had to pay for it too. In spite of their overly high expectations, we tried to compromise with them, because we know we're selling a house in a crap market, etc. They also had the added benefit of being able to keep their initial closing date. So, we agreed to fix most everything, but tried to split the costs of one ridiculously large request, and initially it seemed like that would work. But, in the end they wouldn't compromise at all...
So, we did the most liberating thing we've done in a while...we told them to go away!
I know, it seems so risky to hope for something better to come along, but I am telling you the deal we were working so hard for with them was not good. There really does come a point when its more worth it to not make a deal at all than to take a crappy one, and I am really glad we didn't let them frustrate/trick/confuse/pressure us into making a crappy deal.