Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Parenting lesson #1

I learned something yesterday. It so embarrassing, I hesitate to share. I am pretty sure that someone out there can learn from this though, so here it is:

You do not have to hold a baby all of the time. You can put him down. And walk away.

Of course, you want him to be fed, dry, comfortable, and safe. Once those things are taken care of do not have to sit there and hold him.

I have been reading a book on the recommendation of several of my trusted friends, and the author, a medical doctor, says that you cannot spoil a baby by holding them too much. Whew, that's a relief. Wait. His next point is that a baby cannot be spoiled, because they deserve to be held all of the time, so its not spoiling them. Crap. Honestly, my first thought was, his poor wife. You know he's not the one sitting at home holding the baby all day. I believed him though, until I called my Mom. She informed me that was crazy. Of course I am going with my Mom on this one, after all, she got me safely to adulthood. I'll probably still finish the book, just in case.

Please don't worry about Amos, he is still getting held, plenty. Eric thinks that babies are so cute so that we won't abandon them. Amos is exhibit A. I am very relieved to know I can put him down though, otherwise there would be no time for blogging =)

Disclaimer: I am clearly not an expert, and this is just my opinion. The best advice anyone could ever give is to do what feels right to you.


Laura Denner said...

Laura, I think this is excellent, honest advice. Plus, if you didn't put Amos down ever we would never see the adorable pictures you are able to take!

EHorne said...

Let the kid cry it out... it's about time we start toughing him up.

Susan said...

I feel your pain. I had to learn to put the boy down also. It is good for him AND you. He needs to learn that you will disappear AND reappear.